Nick + Amy

I got to meet Amy while working in Hershey & she is the nicest, most down to earth woman I have ever met! I enjoy my lunch dates with her & I love that she allowed me to share her love story! Happy Valentine’s Day everyone!

Enjoy! ❤️

Nick + Amy 

How long have you been married?

17 ½ years (8/5/00)

History of your marriage; how you met? Became engaged?

Met when we were both with other people originally – Thanksgiving Eve 1997 – but immediately connected as friends. After several months of not seeing each other, reconnected out, again as friends. Nick is 10 years older than me, and I never saw myself connecting with someone his age, when I was only 22 and only in my first year out of college and back in the Harrisburg area. After a few nights of very, very long conversations and staying up until dawn, we realized there was more there than ‘friendship.’ Summer 1998 – Within weeks were we spending all our time together, and very quickly in love. Our families were quick to see it and embraced it despite the age difference and various relationship challenges from the past. It was the real-deal. After spending all the first holidays together, Nick planned a trip to South Beach for us in late January (week leading up to SuperBowl which was in Miami that year). The day prior to leaving, he asked me to come to his house right from work for dinner, and then we would go to my house to get my luggage for our trip. That’s when he did it! He made me a Cajun seafood pasta (which was my favorite) and packaged my beautiful emerald-cut engagement ring in a special ostrich egg decked out like Cinderella’s carriage. AND – to top it all . . . he had asked my parents about three weeks before! Old fashioned and totally surprised. We ended up running around to our families the rest of the night, and enjoyed our trip to South Beach beginning to plan for our big day. We decided on a summer wedding, and did not want to rush it for the upcoming summer, so – we decided to wait until summer 2000. The year 2000 made it even more special for us, at the time – remember when 2000 was such a big deal??

The big day was and still is the best wedding I’ve ever been to : ) It rained the whole week before leading up to a beautiful sunny and cooler day for August. Enjoyed every moment. Married at St. Joan of Arc Catholic Church in Hershey – where our son was later baptized and we are still parishioners; and our reception was at the Hotel Hershey. Such a great time. Followed our wedding with an amazing and unforgettable, first-class honeymoon in Hawaii. AMAZING.

Since all the excitement of our special wedding summer, our love has only grown stronger and more and more resilient.

Whether it was the ups and downs of our financial security versus job loss and excessive debt, or the joy of welcoming our baby boy and only child after going through five years of infertility, our true love and commitment to each other and our relationship has been our constant reminder of the significance of our lives with each other and our partnership – as parents, as children, as a brother and a sister – we are a team that puts our relationship first, and being better at other things in our lives because of that.

What is your favorite thing about him/her?

Him (By Amy): Undying loyalty, commitment to family and his excitement for the simple things in life.                

What is your most memorable moment together?

Too many to name! A few to note, though:

  • Birth of Nicholas – 052507
  • Being ‘partners in crime’ in our travels in our early years (before we started a family when it was just the two of us, and we weren’t going through infertility yet)
  • The first occasions/incidents of serious issues that you realize you are no longer on your own in the world; i.e., a family member’s divorce in the early days; 9/11; building our home together and picking out all the details; etc.)

 What is your favorite thing to do together?

Used to be traveling – not only exotic trips, but road trips and overnighters anywhere, as well.

Shopping – I HATE shopping, but enjoy going shopping with Nick either for stuff for our house or stuff for him (not for me)

Just snuggling watching TV/movies with our son and our dog Sparky.

What is your biggest piece of advice for a man going into his marriage?

From Amy for both men/women: Make sure you are ready for the commitment and ready to work on your relationship. It changes and gets better, but to get better, you have to grow through challenges and unexpected bumps in the road. When both of you are totally committed, you have nothing to worry about – you will get through those tough times and come out stronger.

From Nick: Live for both of you. Respect and honesty go a long way.

 What is your biggest piece of advice for a woman going into her marriage?

From Amy for both men/women: Make sure you are ready for the commitment and ready to work on your relationship. It changes and gets better, but to get better, you have to grow through challenges and unexpected bumps in the road. When both of you are totally committed, you have nothing to worry about – you will get through those tough times and come out stronger.

From Amy (for women): Be patient; don’t jump to conclusions; sometimes he will be an idiot – don’t hold it against him or over his head. Move on!! Remember – you did fall in love with him for a reason. Remind yourself of that!

 What do you think makes a marriage work?

Mutual respect; balance; understanding. Neither one of you is perfect. You each have strengths. You each have weaknesses. Understand what works for you guys and your relationship. You have your greatest friend, confidante and lover right by your side. It’s an amazing feeling to realize that – and not take it for granted. Apologize and mean it. Accept apologies and let your hurt go. Work at it. Talk. Talk. Talk. Have fun together. Be each other’s ‘release valve’ when you need it. Sometimes it’s best to JUST LISTEN – you don’t always need to have answers or provide dialogue – sometimes a sounding board is the greatest gift.

                      

Funny side note . . . on this Valentine’s Day:

Nick and I always love to celebrate special days together, but never make a big deal over them. Case and point . . . after an 11:30 a.m. meeting today (around 1 p.m.), I headed off to Rhode’s in Hummelstown to get my ‘love’ his V’day cards (I typically get 2-3 cards for any occasion). Just as I was pulling in – he was pulling out! He rolled his window down, and without saying a word, we both laughed and laughed. He said, “How can we not laugh at this.” It was so ‘us!’

 

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