Jose + Angelica
How long have you been married?
2 years as of February 13th!
History of your marriage; how you met? got engaged?
We met in high school (HS Sweethearts!), we stayed together all through college & had our first child together, we moved in together shortly after college graduation. Jose proposed during after an intimate family dinner, surrounded by our closest family & friends.
What is your favorite thing about him/her?
Jose – It’s tough to pick just one thing, but I will say how serious she takes on the role of wife/mother. I don’t mean the general cooking & cleaning of the household but rather how deeply she shows her affection. For example, always putting herself to the side to make sure the kids’ needs are met at every extent. The amount of research she does into everything our family consumes, uses or desires. It shows how much she cares & how much energy she puts into our health & happiness.
Angie – He will probably kill me but he looks like he has this hard exterior when in all actuality he is a very compassionate person. He just has a big heart. He’s nonjudgmental, he wants to make everyone laugh & have a good time. He really cares about people. He has the ability to befriend anyone, from any walk of life. I admire that.
What is your most memorable moment together?
Jose – Other than the birth of our children, I would say our prom night when we were still getting to know each other. I was super nervous & after we left her parents house, she pulled out a bottle of liquor from under her dress & pretty much set the tone for the rest of our relationship. We ended up skipping the after prom parties & instead went to the coliseum with my older sister & cousins. She showed me she was fun to be around but also valued family.
Angie – Our wedding day! I thought I was the only one who was nervous but when I walked down the aisle & finally got to him, I could see the expression on his face. He was fighting so hard to hold back tears. We held hands during our vows & we kept squeezing each others hands when we could tell the other was getting emotional. Any moment I felt a gulp in my throat coming he would just squeeze & softly shake his head at me & tell me to breathe. We literally had to hold back our emotions to support each other from becoming blubbering messes.
What is your favorite thing to do together?
Jose – As boring as this sounds, binge watch tv! Not much to explain here. We like the same things & it’s our time to relax & enjoy something other than kids cartoons.
Angie – My favorite thing to do is actually something he doesn’t even know is happening when we are just having family time. I love observing him play with our kids. It’s him in his truest, silliest form. He doesn’t realize when I’m listening to him give our son advice, or brush the girls hair & concentrating on picking out an outfit that I would approve of. He just puts all of his energy into them.
What is your biggest piece of advice for a man going into his marriage?
Jose – Make sure she is the type of person you can have a deep conversation with. Someone who is easy to communicate with. Someone who understands or at least makes an effort to understand. As a man, of course I would say you have to be deep attracted to them. It keeps the spark alive!
Angie – Make her feel like your equal. This means including her on all of decisions & running of the household. This also means chipping in on the household chores. A 50/50 relationship helps hold each other accountable. Chipping in on chores also means she has more energy to put towards you as well!
What is your biggest piece of advice for a woman going into her marriage?
Jose – Make sure they both have the same life goals. I would say for both, living together first always helps. You get to know how someone lives on an intimate level. Are they willing to help with chores? Do they meet your standard of clean? How do they handle bad situations, etc.
Angie – Push him, support his dreams BUT DON’T make him feel like the weight of the world is on his shoulders. Goes along with the 50/50. Acknowledge his efforts & dote on him. We traditionally want to be the ones being treated that we forget that they need that affection too. Tell him how proud you are of his accomplishments & surprise him every so often to a nice date.
What do you think makes a marriage work?
Jose – DO NOT RUSH INTO MARRIAGE. It’s okay to take your time because a marriage is forever. As long as you can communicate & remain attracted to your spouse, it’s going to work.
Angie – I think both parties need to have a strong understanding of what they expect out of each other. Marriage is constant communication & support. Marriage is team work & leaning on each other to build a foundation. Ultimately, it’s the commitment to always putting the other persons needs at high priority with your own. Expect that it’s an ever fluctuating rollercoaster & you chose the best person to tag along on your ride!